Illustration signed by C[yrus] Fosmire which appeared in McClures Magazine with The Griswold Divorce Case by Frederic Taber Cooper, representing a hearing before a divorce referee held in a law office as part of the proceeding for a Divorce in New York City, circa 1900. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
5 Essential Steps on How to Prevent a Divorce
With divorce rates rising on what appears to be a daily basis, it is no surprise that people are wondering how to prevent a divorce. The good news is that it can be done, it is relatively easy when you put these five steps into action. Often the road to a divorce starts with one or the other partner having a "me attitude". When "B attitudes" are necessary for us to live with one another.
Make Time for Each Other
Your relationship will not survive unless you find time for each other and do this regularly. This doesn't mean throwing the odd comment at one another over the dinner table when the kids are fighting but actually making an effort to communicate. Put the kids to bed, switch the TV or computer off and sit down and have a chat. Talk about your day, your feelings and any issues that are worrying you. When keeping the lines of communication open, in all likelihood you will have less disagreements and misunderstandings over trivial things. Yes indeed, you will still fight once in a while but that is entirely natural. The best part about the fighting is the making up session afterwords.
Show Respect for One Another
It really doesn't matter how long you've been together always demonstrate respect for your spouse. Give them plenty of time for themselves. Don't expect to occupy their every waking moment. There will be times when your partner is going through a difficult time either because of work or personal problems that have nothing to do with your relationship. Be there for them at this time. This doesn't mean you have to solve the problem as that will not always be possible but if they know they have your support, it will help a great deal.
Never Slight Your Significant Other
You should never slight your partner not even in a moment of anger. When someone loves another person, they tend to open up to them and share weaknesses that they wouldn't share with anyone else. If that partner then uses this knowledge against them, the harm can be tremendous. So be careful and try to think before you act or open your mouth. If you do insult them, be quick to apologize and assure them you didn't intend for it to come out that way.
Show Appreciation
We are all guilty of taking things for granted including our health, our jobs and probably our mates. You should make a conscious effort to show your partner an expression of gratitude for their efforts. You know your spouse better that anyone, this also means that you understand how they like to be shown appreciation, so do it. For some people telling them verbally works while for others, they need gestures rather than just words. Taking time to complement your other half will increase your mutual appreciation and the bond between you making divorce less likely.
Last but Not Least, Show Forgiveness
Each and every one of us will mess up occasionally and rather than holding a grudge, why not practice forgiveness. You never know when you will make a big mistake and in time, you will want your spouse to return the favor. Nobody is perfect and you will have a more blissful marriage if you don't expect your mate to be.
Put into action these five prevent a divorce tips and you should never need a divorce lawyer!
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